In the video below, I coach Casey through an experience she's having in her life and a desire she has to develop a healthier connection to her daughters so that she is not so emotionally affected by how her daughters are feeling (or experiencing their own life as adults).
It's likely this video will be helpful for all parents (no matter how old your kids are), for new mothers, and for anyone who struggles with taking on the pain and feelings of others.
Below is what Casey wrote to us:
I am the mother of two very wonderful, lovely, successful young women. I am very close to both of them but have a hard time not letting their ups and downs in life rule my emotions. Because we are so close and talk often, I know when things are going well in their lives and also when they are not. When their lives are in turmoil, I find it very hard to set their concerns or heartache aside and to go about my own life. When they were young, it was my responsibility to guide and support them. Now that they are on their own, there is nothing more I can or need to do for them other than to listen to them when they need to talk. However, I do not seem to be able to set the worry and concern aside and while I need to let them live their lives, I feel the pressure to try to make everything right for them.
How do I lend support and love to them but at the same time not take on their concerns or heartaches when there is nothing more I can do for them. In other words, how do I stop being such a mom and move on to being a supportive friend who does not take on all of their worries? Thank you. -Casey
And here's my response to Casey.
I hope this video is helpful to you as you journey through life and perhaps parenthood.
Sending you so much love and so much peace on this and every day.
If you thought this information was helpful and you'd like to see more on parenting strategies and how to create healthy nurturing bonds with your babies, shoot me a note here about what you'd like to see and I'll look to see if we can begin creating that series or live group event sometime in the coming months. And, as always, if this video inspired you or if you think it would be helpful to others, please forward it on to all the people you know and all the people you love.
Deeply in love with love,
Christina Renée Joubert is founder and CEO of Teaching the World to Love™; author of When Soulmates Unite – Learning to Love Ourselves from the People Who Can Hurt Us the Most; and a proud mommy to a beautiful little boy.
Christina has dedicated her life to making accessible to all people the knowledge, wisdom, tools, and strategies that can help them reframe their past, transform their present, and change the trajectory of their relationships and lives - now and for generations to come. Donation-based personal growth for all. #itstime